As the Holidays approach, I am beginning to hear the usual freak-out from my friends about the stress and worry that comes along with the season. So much to do, so little time! This can be an especially hard time of year for families dealing with Alzheimer's. To help you through, I've pulled together some tips for families coping with Alzheimer's. But first... I'm going to share a story.

The year before we had to move Mom to an assisted living facility, we gathered at her apartment for a Thanksgiving meal. My husband and I brought everything along with us including the turkey, the fixings, the pie, and the wine (for me!). We picked up my mother-in-law and Aunt Kaye on the way to Mom's. I thought we were really prepared.

These were the days of uncertainty when responding to Mom's confusion. Patience was sometimes stretched super thin. When you're in the moment of not knowing what to say or how to react, it can be frustrating. I used to draw cartoons after these types of events so I could see the humor in the situation and relieve some stress. Well let me tell you, I had some great cartoons after that Thanksgiving! I remember my mom standing at the counter, telling me to have some bread. I kindly replied my usual "oh that's OK I can't have bread, I'm gluten intolerant". To which she replied her usual "What? You can't eat bread?". This was followed by "Why aren't you having any stuffing?"

I wish I knew then what I know now. This is why I'm here to provide you with information, because having some knowledge can make it easier to cope with these types of situations. As if the Holidays weren't stressful enough, add into the mix a loved one with Alzheimer's and it can push you right over the edge. Take a little bit of time now to prepare yourself and your loved one for the craziness of the Holidays.

Some Basics:

Have your gatherings earlier in the day
Play favorite and familiar holiday music to help keep spirits up for everyone
Have a quiet space in the house where he/she can go to avoid getting overwhelmed
Familiarize family members with changes in behavior ahead of time
Speak slowly and don't ask the person if he/she 'remembers' certain traditions
Be patient and never argue with the person who has dementia
Avoid blinking lights in your holiday decorations
Stick to appropriate gifts (Holiday Gift Guide)

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